I compared myself to her. Big mistake.

Hey Fit Fam!

Okay so I did the thing I tell everyone not to do.

I was on Instagram at 11pm, which is already a crime against my own wellbeing, and I fell into the rabbit hole. You know the one. Where you start on one page and forty five minutes later you're deep in the profile of a woman you've never met, watching her 5am workout routine, her colour coded meal prep containers, her spotless kitchen, her abs, her ENERGY, and somewhere along the way you've decided that you are personally failing at being a human being.

Her name was something like Brittany or Kayla or one of those names. She had 200,000 followers and a ring light and what appeared to be an entirely uninterrupted hour every single morning to dedicate to her fitness.

And I'm sitting there in my bed, in yesterday's t-shirt, eating crackers because I forgot to eat dinner, thinking why can't I just DO this like she does.

Here is what I know about Brittany Kayla now that I did not know at 11pm.

Fitness IS her job. Like literally her income. Her workout is her content. Her meal prep is her content. Her abs are her content. She is not fitting fitness into her life. Her life IS the fitness.

Meanwhile I am a whole mother with a whole full time job with a whole schedule and whole children who need whole things from me at all hours and I was genuinely measuring myself against a professional.

That's like watching a Formula 1 driver and feeling bad about your commute.

The comparison trap is sneaky though because it doesn't feel irrational in the moment. It feels like motivation. It feels like inspiration. It feels like if she can do it why can't I. But what it's actually doing, underneath all of that, is making your real life feel like a problem to be solved instead of the context you're working within.

Your life is not the obstacle. Your life is the whole point.

A workout that fits into your actual Tuesday, with your actual energy, after your actual day, is worth infinitely more than the perfect workout you never do because you're waiting to have Brittany Kayla's morning.

I closed the app. I drank some water. I went to sleep.

And the next morning I did twenty minutes in my living room in the same yesterday t-shirt and it was genuinely fine and nobody filmed it and that was the whole point.

Your version of this doesn't need an audience. It doesn't need a ring light. It doesn't need to look like anyone else's.

It just needs to happen in your actual life. The messy, full, beautiful, exhausting life you already have.

Wednesday I'm dropping this week's movement plan and I promise it was designed for your life. Not Brittany Kayla's. Yours.

See you there. 🔥

Love, Kai

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